How do you live your life after discovering that your partner hasn’t been true to you? How do you regain the shattered trust? How do you tell yourself that it is fine when you are broken deep inside? How can you start surviving adultery when you do not even know when to begin? And how can you say that you can go on for another try when deep inside you feel like giving up?
Adultery is a monster that eats marriages alive! However, life do not end the moment when you found your husband with a lipstick mark on his collar, when you saw him enter a motel with a blonde girl on his hand, when you found out that he is living with the other woman during weekend when you believed all along that he is out of the country for a trip with his boss. There are more things in marriages than those cuddly moments in bed and those sweet kisses you’ll get after a long day at work. Problems will strike the scene and sometimes, these setbacks can strike really hard to the point that they will put you off your feet.
Surviving adultery involves bringing the trust back. It will take months before trust can be established again, while others can never have it back. Once an affair is discovered, the marriage will walk in thin air wherein one moment of lunacy can destroy everything.
Infidelity is the leading cause of separation. By the time a partner cheats, it will take twice as long to start rebuilding trust again. With so many errors in life, it may even take longer for someone to start over again.
For the cheater, convincing the partner to give it another try might be the first hurdle. Not everyone might be happy to forgive a cheating spouse so easily which is why the cheating partner can find it really hard to ask for a second chance. To set the record straight, a study confirmed that 73% of partners are not willing to give their spouses a second chance after adultery. This means that if you were given the second chance, be sure to cherish is because you will only find such chance once in a blue moon. Start to become grateful about her as both of you work in surviving adultery.
For the one cheated on, get back to basics. After cheating, you will feel inadequate to the point that your insecurities will become your reason why you have been cheated on. This is the time to rebuild your confidence again. Look the best way you can. Pamper yourself because you deserve every glory of this world after deciding that you are willing to swallow your pride just for your marriage to work again. On the other hand, if you think you have the need to seek professional help, do so without any doubt. This will become very helpful so you can pour all your troubles out to someone who cares.